by Devina Gunawan
Why do people find it difficult to let go of expectations? It is as if expectations are the ultimate guides to life, in how to behave, how to love, how to live, etc.
They aren’t. They are just simply standards we set up for people we keep in our lives. They are the rules in which we believe, “this is how it should be.”
Anyone thinking of Cinderella, “Just because it’s what’s done, doesn’t mean it’s what should be done”?
Because I am.
I have clocked out of the world ever since it tips me off my balance. Ever since I had realized that the social norms make life so much more complicated, especially for people like me. People who like running around in their own worlds. The idealists, the artists, the dreamers.
Just as the world expects me to be like everyone else, I rebel. And I question. Over and over again.
Am I supposed to fit in and do what everyone else is doing? Or am I just expected to listen to my parents’s words of “We just want you to be happy”?
Which one is correct? And why do I have to follow things that make me unhappy while trying to find my happiest state? How does that work? Why do I have to act like a proper lady and marry in my mid twenties and have children?
Why is it a must? And what happens if I do not fulfill it and everything else expected of me? What will happen to me?
“Family will be so ashamed.”
Is it true? Or is it what they think and believe they will be if I do not meet what society expects of me?
Or am I just expecting too much understanding from society? Or even better, perhaps people I care about are misled into thinking that society cares about what we do and say. Because in the end, we die alone. We come to life, live, and die without others.
That should not be forgotten.
Just because it is what’s done, doesn’t mean that it should done. Or am I wrong?